Cindy speaks about her experience in the Path Within Program - with the creator of the Path Within Program, Anthony Santen and how it changed her life around
My name is Cindy Doyle and I’ve been in the training and development industry for about 20 years.
I have 2 daughters and 4 grand children
I was in a situation where I was feeling burnt out
I decided it was time for me to begin looking at what my future would look like
I wasn’t feeling engaged in life
And I was on a roller coaster
Good days, bad days, good days, bad days
And I just wanted to change that feeling of powerlessness
And I was... lost, I was lost and coming to the program
And through the process that you took me through
I found myself again
When I found myself... its interesting, because I found myself in a different way
Now I feel so much more authentic
Its as if before, I wore that behaviour, I wore that person as a coat, now I feel that I AM that person
I was looking for a way to shift my thinking
And shift some of the behaviours, so that I could move beyond some of the limitations.... self imposed limitations that I had
... and so, I had gone to my doctor, and I talked to him about, you know, maybe getting some assistance and he sent me to a traditional counselor, but it wasn’t quite enough to pull me up.
But when it got to the point in my life when I got so many stresses – that I needed to deal with, you can’t cope, because you can’t be what you’re not...
You can’t allocate the energy to cope with...
And you can’t put the energy to it, and so I just, you know
It’s like I said to my doctor, I just tired of coping, don’t send me to anyone who’s going to teach me to cope
because I want to make the change that will allow me to live the life, that I actually truly am inside
to let that person out, and not have to worry about coping
And so when I met Anthony, I loved his style
I liked that Anthony was tough with me, that was really important
I needed somebody tough, so I couldn’t, sort of slide out, and honest, yes, and supportive...
All of those things, all at once,
Its amazing, how great you are at knowing, just how to interact to get people to come out
Yeah, so that’s how I got here...
And I’m just ever so grateful, thank you.
I so appreciate, you and your work.
What I went for was, so that I could feel more engaged in life, because I’d lost that
I had lost my passion
I rediscovered who I am
I believe that I was in touch with that, but it took so much energy to be my authentic self because there were some belief systems that kept fighting against me
No, I’m not interested in any more coping mechanisms!
I am the queen of coping
I’m looking for some solutions
I think it was just genuine excitement at having made the progress that I had made, and just going: where will this end up. I just want to be where it’s going to end up.
When I embody my authentic self, its so much easier because there’s not this sense of vigilance of:
Do I fit in
Am I right
Am I proper in my environment
Now, it doesn’t matter as much, because it is who I am
I think it was always there, but for some reason I wasn’t embracing it completely
And that was really important for me
How did you find the process?
The process itself, was quite simple, I mean we accomplished amazing things in such a short period of time. I’m just so amazed at that process, because in such a short period of time
Under 3 months
Look at the difference!
From when I walked in, and until now
In 3 months!
How many other, different, techniques or modalities can offer you that?
That’s pretty amazing!
Thank YOU !
The whole idea of, how I was making decisions in my life was also, really significant.
Like, where they came from, or how the process of making the decisions
The process; that I was just inviting too many opinions before I made my final decision
I was really out to please the world, is what had happened
And I had gotten into a habit of that...
So getting my power back was so essential to everything else
And now I’m doing what I want to do, and I’m just so excited about the possibilities
And, so now I’m dreaming as well, again and that’s
Now you’re achieving
Now I’m achieving too
I feel totally empowered to go after those things and to make them come to fruition
For who would you recommend it?
Oh my gosh, I would recommend it for everybody
I think that, you know, an investment of 6 weeks or 3 months...
To invest that amount of time into this, into yourself
Is... that’s such a small investment for the return that you can get on it
Anyone who is... wanting to do more, or be more, or just be themselves... This is the program!
This is the way to do it!
I won’t say its painless, but it is....
But was it really hard to get into? I mean... did you feel guided enough that you were able to do the work, or did you feel like you really had to overcome all these thresholds all the time
No, no... you’re an amazing guide.
Just an amazing guide... because
And... you have to remember, I’ve been in training and development for 20 years, so I was so used to being in the driver’s seat that... not just anyone... could help me to accomplish that
You were a real challenge, when you came to me
I thought, the Path Within is the program I want to be in
Yeah, it was amazing. Its an experience that I won’t soon forget, and its something that I’ll do again, because I feel that, for me, it was repurposing... and I really believe that people should do that on a regular basis.
Not just once in a lifetime...
I went, Oh my Gosh, if I had just thought if this, in this way, a few years ago... things would have been so different.
I look back at my life and I think, for me, if I’d been here, in my early 30’s
I feel very strongly that I could have realised so much more of my potential, so much earlier in my life...
And not only that, I could have influenced my children differently as well, and passed some of it on...
It’s such amazing stuff that, you just kind of spread it
Because, in being my authentic self, then other people learn from that behaviour
Being that person all the time and being authentic and feeling comfortable in that skin, I feel, is allowing me to emerge even further... I don’t know if that makes any sense, but...
It does, actually because the base of the design of the program is actually 3-fold.
You’re opening up
But at the same time, you’re shedding
So you’re doing all 3, actually, at the same time
I really believe there’s magic in it....
I’m feeling so much happier with my life and more satisfied with it
And its interesting, because I am working on my goals
And things are happening
But its not about that
I’m laughing again
... back into my ‘giggle fests’ – which is great!
And I had stopped laughing
I have a spring in my step
And those things mean so much... just so much
So, there’s a quality to life – that I had let go
And its back!, its back !